The Mirror Effect of Our Worth.
- Raquel McKenzie
- Nov 2
- 2 min read
I was having this whole discussion with my fiancé this morning about accountability—energetic accountability. We were reflecting on how people treat us and how much of that is a mirror of what we silently accept, what we project, or what we subconsciously believe we deserve. Not everyone understands what true love is, and sometimes we go too deep with someone whose soul was only meant to teach us, not stay with us. And when we ignore the signs, when we hold onto illusions—we end up blaming them instead of asking what part of us aligned with that frequency in the first place.
Sometimes the most sacred act is to face the mirror and tell ourselves the brutal, unfiltered truth: the patterns we attract, the love we chase, the disrespect we tolerate—it has nothing to do with them, and everything to do with us. These people are not always our enemies. Sometimes, they are soul mirrors—here to uncover the lessons we’ve denied, the wounds we’ve patched but never healed. The length of the lesson depends on how long we choose to avoid that truth.
As a speaker, this topic is one we don’t address enough because it requires radical self-honesty. For example, I’ve known my now fiancé for over five years. He always showed interest, always saw me, but I kept running—not because of him, but because I felt unworthy of the love he offered. I was stuck in a story of lack, and I ran straight into the arms of someone operating from a lower vibration. Someone who had no concept of love, respect, or loyalty—and he taught me my lesson. A painful one. And the whole time, the man meant for me was still there, still aligned, still waiting for me to remember my worth.
We’re quick to call out the consequences of other people’s actions, but rarely do we acknowledge the energetic cost of our own. There are consequences to people-pleasing. There are consequences to dimming your light so others can shine. Every time you put others first at the expense of your soul, you create an imbalance that the universe will eventually correct.
What we allow, we silently endorse. And what we endorse, we energetically feed. So sometimes, the most powerful initiation is not pointing fingers outward—but taking a long, unflinching look in the mirror. Radical accountability is alchemy. The moment you own your part, the energy shifts. Your pain becomes your power. Your wounds become wisdom. And your spirit becomes unbreakable.
When you finally stop running from your own reflection, you unlock the sacred truth: you were never broken—only buried under the weight of expectations, projections, and unhealed patterns. The moment you reclaim your energy from what no longer serves your highest vibration, you begin to rise. Not as the version the world created, but as the divine force you were destined to be. Healing isn’t just about mending—it’s about remembering. And when you remember who you are, everything you touch becomes a catalyst for awakening.
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